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So, why is it that the men you ignore seem to want you even more? And the men that you chase seem to disappear like a ghost. Well, in today's very special video, I'm going to explain exactly why that phenomenon happens. And I'm going to give you a step-by-step roadmap to making these high-caliber guys pursue you. My name is Adam LeDolce. I'm an executive love coach and I'm the CEO and founder of Love Strategies. And for those who are new, welcome to Love Strategies. For those who are familiar with the brand, you'll notice I got a new office. I actually, Jessica and I just moved to a brand new home. We have a baby coming on the way in about a month as of the shooting of this video, a baby boy. And I was setting up my office here and I thought to myself, I want to really have my very first video in this brand new office sharing the cornerstone strategy that we have been teaching for the past decade, helping literally tens of thousands of the most successful women on the planet attract the most high-caliber guys. And once you really understand these steps, very specific steps you can take to get started today, suddenly you're going to have unlimited options of guys that you can be able to meet. You're going to learn exactly how to flirt. Dating finally becomes fun again. And then you finally just feel like you have a handle on this dating stuff. You don't feel confused and like wondering what the heck is wrong with men, what the heck is wrong with dating. And suddenly you can actually move forward in your love life. So I'm very excited to share this with you and kind of walk you through these steps because once again, these are proven, these have worked for thousands of our clients before, and they can absolutely work for you. So let me get into them. We call them the seven little love steps. The reason why I throw in the little part is because these are small yet very intentional steps that you can start taking in your love life today that get you moving forward in your love life, attracting the right types of guys. So I'm just gonna walk through these because I don't know, I'm so jazzed up sitting in this new office and ready to roll. I have a beautiful view over here. I can hear Jessica downstairs packing the house. And yeah, let's get things going. So let's start with little of step number one, which is all about you radiating your feminine energy. Now, you might be thinking to myself, Adam, I thought the first step was to get out there and start meeting some guys. No, no, no, not quite yet. Because what we have found is that when we are stepping into our radiant feminine confidence, when our client starts practicing that before even start dating, then dating can become so much more fun. So, what do I mean by feminine confidence? Well, let's start with the feminine part. I work with so many clients who are exceptionally successful in their professional careers. They know how to get shit done, part of my language, but it's just true, and I think they would say that. And what I've found over the years when working with clients is when I talk about this idea of attracting masculinity with femininity, they look at femininity and think to themselves, oh, femininity is weak because they have been just constantly given this message by society that by living in your feminine, playful, curious energy, then suddenly now you're almost subservient to men. But a huge part of our work is just reframing that thinking and understanding that actually feminine energy and feminine confidence is the most powerful energy throughout the dating process. It's learning to be playful again. It's learning to start conversations with people and lightly touch them on the arm and laugh and enjoy yourself and be able to lean back and be able to receive compliments. And there's so much with this energy that's so empowering. And this is coming from a guy over here telling you all, you know, I'm sharing with you all the importance of feminine energy. And once you start sitting in that feminine energy, you're gonna notice that men start to pursue you in ways you've never experienced before. You can practice this before you even start dating. In fact, I have an upcoming event coming in Boston in a couple of weeks. And one thing we do with all of our clients is we have an entire evening where as many as 50 or 60 of our clients will go out on a given night and just practice living in their feminine and playfulness, and they all go out and they have different exercises, and it's just so, so much fun. Where they're like, wow, I haven't done this maybe ever in my life. And I've spent so much time in my career living in my masculine strong energy that I've kind of forgotten what it feels like to be a woman. And they notice that by the end of that night, they're like, Boston is the greatest city in the world to meet men. And they keep saying, I'm moving to Boston because oh my God, I have so many guys coming up and approaching me. And these are women in their 60s, 50s, 60s, and 70s, by the way. And I always remind them it's not Boston, it's not Boston at all. It's your radiant feminine energy. Okay, so that's little love step number one. Then we get to little love step number two, where we create your love vision. This is where we get crystal clear about the man and relationship you deeply desire. Because if we don't have that North Star, then suddenly we're just going to be kind of going out and hoping and praying that the right man just finds himself in your life. And I will tell you this, I've said this many times. If you don't choose what you want in a man, you will be chosen by a man you don't want. Let me repeat, if you don't know what you want in a man, you will be chosen by a man you don't want. And the thing with creating a love vision that can be really challenging for a lot of our type A clients is they want to make it perfect. They like write down all of these attributes that they really want and they spend months and months and months. And I'm always saying, no, look, the purpose of a love vision is actually to have a very short list of core needs and qualities in a person. And this is we have a number of different exercises we work with clients on so that they finally get their love vision and they go out and they start dating. They move on to little love step three, which I'll get to in a moment. But it's not something that is like written in stone where once you have your love vision, like you can't change it. No, of course not. Like you'll start with a love vision, initial love vision, and you'll kind of have it down and you'll say, okay, I have an idea of what I think I want at this phase of my life. And then you move on, you start going on some dates, and then you might go back to your love vision and say, hmm, actually, I thought I wanted a man who played pickleball, but I realized that I just met Jack and he is so funny, he's so interesting, he's so kind. And I realize that that's actually not a need. That's a want, but it's not a need. So you scratch it off and you might add something to it. So just realize for those of you who are kind of sitting at home wondering, I don't even know what I want in a guy. Well, we can start with a love vision, or of course, we'd be happy to help you and work with you to create that. And while I'm on that, for those who are listening and want to have a conversation with someone on my team to really lock in your love vision and see whether or not we can make your love vision a reality, just click the link in the description, or you can head on over to loveapply.com. You can apply for a complimentary love strategy session. Someone on my team is going to speak with you directly on a Zoom session and see whether or not our coaching is right for you. If it's not, that's totally fine. You'll still get value from that. Get your love vision. If so, we want to take your love vision and then put it into action. Okay, enough on that. Let's move on to little love step number three, which is personally my favorite love, little love step. Little love step number three is where we get out and meet high character men. Notice the word character. This is a very important word. So at little love step number three, that's where you get your beautiful behind off of the couch and start meeting some of these guys that exist out there. Because now we have a love vision and we're gonna go to high quality places where high quality men exist. And yes, these places absolutely do exist both online and offline, but we do it with a lot of energy because now we're in little love step number three. Now it's time to take action. Now it's time to get off the couch and go make it happen. It's like little love step number number one and two is a way to kind of start getting the process moving. But then once you get to little love step number three, I'm always talking to my clients and I'm like, this is where we hit it. This is where we get out and meet lots and lots of guys. And a huge part of this is reframing your mind about initiating conversations with people, initiating conversations with men. Don't worry, I'm not gonna have you getting out there hitting on some guys and back, what's up, boys? I want to say hello. We're not gonna be doing anything like that, I promise you. But it will involve uh the perfect smile at the right time, the perfect hello uh when a man walks past you and initiating conversations at the right places at the right time to start opening your world to options. Because I assure you, if you're sitting at home thinking to yourself, where are all the good men? They don't exist out there. Either you're going to the wrong places, or you're just sitting at home wondering hypothetically where these men exist, and we're not even getting outside. And I'm thinking of you all right now, just do a quick audit of your social life. How many men have you really met over the past, let's say, 30 days? Just do a quick audit. And if it is less than five, then we need to have a strategy. Okay, so once we get to little up step number three, we're gonna be getting out there, meeting lots of guys, going to the right places, flirting with the right type of energy. And this is where you start to once again have the high caliber guys pursuing you. We are not chasing, we are initiating conversations, and then we lean back in our feminine energy and let them take it from there. Okay. Once we are past little of step three, that means we are getting out, meeting at least five new guys every single month, if not more. We have some clients that are pushing 10, pushing 15, which is fine. Um, others might be a two or three. We encourage them to go out and meet more guys. But that leads us to little love step number four. And this is such an important mindset shift where you qualify your dating options. This is where you start going on dates with these guys that you have met in little love step number three, and we go on the dates with what I call a qualifying mindset. You are qualifying them to see if they meet your love vision. Okay. So this is where we take a look at our love vision before we go on any of these dates, and we're really going into this with the idea of not just am I attracted to this guy, not is this guy 6'2 handsome and charming. I mean, yeah, that can be a bonus, but what is most important is does he meet the core needs for you as a partner? I don't care if he's good for you for the next 30 days, I don't care if he's good for you for the next 30 months. I want him to be the perfect partner for you for the rest of your life. That's what we do here at Love Strategies is we're thinking about the long-term vision of your life rather than just, you know, what's gonna work for you in the short term just because this guy is really cute, funny, and great in bed, right? That's not gonna work here. And so one thing that I'm always finding with our clients that I'm reframing is when they come on a mastermind or come to any of our events or are working with us, and they ask, Adam, how do I get this guy to like me? And I say, wrong question to be asking. It's the wrong question. We don't get guys to like us. We are going out with the best energy possible, and we are asking ourselves, is he right for me? That is the shift. And there's a lot that goes into the first dates and second dates, the right types of questions to ask. But that is the key part of all this, the big shift that has to happen when you're going on these dates where you are qualifying them for your life because you've built an incredible life and we're not just gonna let anyone in. You are the prize that these guys are begging to win over. Okay, you see how this is working? You see how you're starting to get some progression in your love life, you see how you're taking those steps forward, you see how you can finally feel like you're empowered in your love life. That's the power of the little love steps. Then we move to little love step number five, where we pace the progression of your connections. We basically slow it down. At this step, typically our clients are talking to or going on dates with as many as two or three different guys. Yes, you heard me right. They talk to as many as three different guys at the same time. We're not exclusive with these guys. We're just going on dates, we're just exploring our options, seeing who meets our love vision. And it's at this phase where likely you're gonna meet a couple of guys or maybe one guy that you really like, that you're like, man, not only does he meet my love vision, but I'm starting to feel the feels for this man. I feel the chemistry. I feel myself drawn to him. I see myself thinking about him, I see myself wanting to spend more and more time with him. And that's exactly when we say, you know what? Let's slow it down even further and be super intentional in our love life. We want to slow it down before it gets to commitment. And the reason why we do this is for two reasons. Number one is we want our head to catch up with our heart. Okay. So, what can happen when we're dating is when we're in that initial early honeymoon phase, we are so like wrapped up in the excitement of a new person that we might just jump in way too quickly. And then you wake up anywhere from three weeks to three months later and you're like, who is this human being? I don't like this person. What was I thinking? But then you're stuck. Okay. So we really want to slow it down, get to know the man behind the man that you're meeting on these dates, and understand is he really right for you and is he worth exclusivity? Okay, that's the first reason. The second one is that by you slowing it down, it actually puts you in the power seat of dating. It allows you to really control the direction of where things are going and it builds a massive amount of desire in the connection because it's very rare that a high-caliber guy is told from a woman that she really wants to slow it down. And when a man starts to hear this, he starts to think to himself, this woman is different. This is something I haven't experienced before. Very, very interesting. And it had this weird psychological effect where it actually makes him even want to speed things up even more because no longer is he control. He's not in control of the situation. You are. You are sitting in your feminine energy, you are the one pacing, you're the one slowing things down. And this man is gonna have to really, really put in the effort to win you over. And we continue to pace and we continue to pace until it gets to a point. This typically happens with our clients, anywhere from two to three months of talking to a guy where there's just no one else, no other guy you're talking to that you would even want to go on a date with. It's like this man so clearly meets your love vision. You're spending a lot of time together, and it's just clear as day that exclusivity is right. And it's at this stage that we simply move to little love step number six, which is great, where we set boundaries for a committed exclusive relationship. And this is the beginning stage of a new relationship. And typically, little love step number six is like, you know, three to six months where you're in that new relationship, you're just getting to know each other, you're understanding each other's triggers, you understand what works, do your lives work together. And this step, what we have found is after coaching tens of thousands of women, we found the most important part of this is to be setting very clear boundaries for what this relationship is going to look like. Communication boundaries, how often we're going to see each other, what exclusivity really looks like. Because let me tell you, there's a lot of women out there who right now who are sitting at home dating a guy, thinking that it's exclusive when it's not. It hasn't been exclusive, it hasn't been explicitly clear that this is an exclusive relationship. And this is why our clients will never find themselves in what we call a situationship ever again. They'll never be in a casual relationship where they're just assuming that it's exclusive when it's not. That doesn't happen here at Love Strategies. Quite the contrary. We are very intentional about having the conversation. We tell our clients exactly what to say, how to set boundaries. And there are many boundaries that will occur in the first six months of a relationship that set you up for success for the lifetime of the relationship. It's kind of like setting the tone for the relationship. This is where you set the tone for how things are going to go in a kind, feminine way. Like we're not going to be a jerk about it, but we really set the tone for what this is going to look like, how we're going to communicate, how we're going to interact with each other, and what's going to work for the both of you. And this is going to be a lot of listening, this is going to be a lot of feedback. And this is where you start to just get on the same page. Which then leads me to the final little love step, which is what we call little love step number seven, which is relationship synergy. This is where you are starting to really build a life together. This is where he has told you that he loves you and you've reciprocated that. You're now in a loving, committed, exclusive relationship, and you're starting to plan your life together. And I think one thing that sets us up very differently here at Love Strategies is we not only coach our clients how to date, but how to really create a life with their partner. And that's why I brought Dr. Gary Lewandowski in, who's our chief love scientist. He's our core relationship scientist here. And one of the things that's so important is just active communication and ensuring that you're constantly aligned with each other. Because look, human nature is such that he might want to have one desire in his life and you might have another. And healthy relationships are just creating this soft but very consistent alignment over and over and over again with very healthy communication. And when our clients find themselves in little love step number seven, they finally are at that point where they're with the person that meets their love vision. This man is showing up for them. He is uh affectionate, he's caring, he's kind, and most importantly, he's of high character. And this is the power of the little love steps. When you walk through little love step one through seven, you are finally in the power seat. So for those who are listening are like, you know what? I really want to embrace the little love steps. There's one other part to all of this that's super important, is you got to have a support system. So over the years, we've been teaching this stuff, but we found what makes our clients so successful is by having the accountability, by having the feedback, by having the exact places of where to go. We have an entire relationship intelligence suite, which uses AI to really guide our clients, as well as human coaches who hold them accountable every single step of the way. And our coaching is designed to not only guide our clients, kind of like a college curriculum, but also support them emotionally every single step of the way. We have masterminds. We connect our clients to one another. We uh we have so many different parts of what we do that are just so transformational for our clients. And for those who are listening in right now who really want to explore what that would look like for them, then simply just go to loveaply.com or you can click the link in the description. You can give it a shot, talk to a love strategist, and we can see whether we can help. This is all we do here is we teach our clients how to go through these seven very powerful steps and we support them every single step of the way. So I hope you all enjoyed this video. I hope it gave you some things to think about. And for those who are like, you know what, I need to make this happen. Let's talk. Let's get this thing going. And hey, if you have any comments about the office, I obviously need some more pictures up here. For those who are listening to the podcast, you can see it in the on YouTube as well. Um, I appreciate all of you so much. And I can't wait to start creating more authentic content just like this for all of you because I think that that's what the world needs a little more of is just authentic content. You can get to know me even better, and uh, I can certainly get to know you when I get to read the comments. All right. Thank you so much for watching. I'll speak to all of you beautiful ladies very soon. Bye bye.