SPEAKER_00 0:00

Hey there everyone. Before we start the podcast, as you all know, there's a lot of bad dating and love advice out there, and we want to put a stop to that. So if you're enjoying this podcast, you enjoy the content that we're putting out, please can you leave a review wherever it is that you're listening to this podcast? It spreads a lot of love and it really helps get this message out there so we can help more women just like you attract the love that they truly deserve. Go ahead and leave that review and let's jump into the podcast. Sometimes you'll go out with someone or you meet someone and you're just like, there's something here that doesn't add up. Yeah. And it might be those evolutionary triggers coming in that you can't quite describe, but you even see that the way they look at you, and then they look aside, and they look at you, and they these small tells that they might be lying, but you don't know necessarily to decode that at the moment. But that's just like your R DNA coming in. There's something off here. Welcome to the Love Strategies Podcast, where we help successful women attract high-value men, date with a strategy, and improve their relationships. Now, whether you're single or dating or in a new relationship, we're here to help you dive into the male mind and provide raw insights found nowhere else, backed by science, psychology, and our own personal experiences. Your hosts today are myself, Adam Ladolce, a professional dating coach and founder of Love Strategies, and Dr. Gary Lewandowski, a relationship scientist, professor, and our head relationship coach here at Love Strategies. Please share with a friend and enjoy. Gary, I have a sneaky intuition that today's podcast is gonna be a little bit of a romance killer, but it's gonna be extremely helpful for those of you who are figuring out is he the one and trying to just navigate your love life? And I know you like this topic.

SPEAKER_01 1:43

I I love this topic, and I think I think you're right. I think a lot of our things end up a little bit more on the romance killer side. And it's fine. I own that I own that completely. Um, but I think today actually is one of our least romance killer kind of podcasts because we do what I think we do really well, and it's kind of our bread and butter thing, which is take something that is romantic, but then show how to use that romantic side, our heart feeling side of things, but do it in a strategic way that's actually beneficial to the relationship. And so a lot of times we will say, be strategic, be intentional, be thoughtful, be purposeful, be objective, be logical. And all that, that's what people uh that sounds like romance killing because that's not feelings and that's not going with your heart. But today we're talking about intuition, and we're not gonna say don't follow your intuition, because that would be romance killing, and that's not our stuff. That's not what we do.

SPEAKER_00 2:44

I I on just on the romance killing side, I feel like we have a style of trying to kill the romance a little bit through the dating process so that we have a more romantic relationship later. Because look, having a really romantic first couple of weeks, that's all well and good. But if that then leads to a non-romantic next 20 years of your life, that sounds horrible. So I'd rather dial back the romance a little bit and learn a little more about more about strategy and intuition, rather dial that back a little bit through the dating process so that the rest of our lives can be actually full thrive with lots of romance. So and me and you are like the biggest romantic, we're like such saps. So it's true. I know I am.

SPEAKER_01 3:31

It's all about playing the long game, and something you know, like I'm a huge fan of saying is follow your heart, but take a little strategy with you. And so follow your heart is you can't deny that that's part of relationships. And so that's what we're gonna talk about today is how you can follow your heart, use your intuition, but do so in a strategic way.

SPEAKER_00 3:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 3:49

So lead us through it. Let's let's hear it. So, you know, sometimes there's plenty of things in life where you just want to be super objective in all possible ways, right? Maybe when you're picking a place to live or picking a career, or you know, even choosing a car, you really want to be completely objective. But for better or for worse, when it comes to romantic relationships, that's not how people want to do it. No, right? That's not how we're designed to do it. Yeah, like we don't want checklists, we don't want all like systems and checklists and be we want to go with our heart, right? We want to go with our intuition. And so that's all well and good. But what we're gonna talk about today, it's it's a matter of timing. And there's a way to use your intuition, uh, a really, really helpful way, and there's a way to use your intuition that we're gonna suggest that you avoid. And so I think it's important for us first to start with just a general definition of what intuition is. Um, and so intuition is your ability to know or understand something without any sort of conscious reasoning. It's not a deliberative thought process, it's more of a gut reaction, a feel, a sense of knowing about, you know, I just sense that this is the right thing to do. It's sometimes people will say it's a deep understanding or immediate insight. It's the opposite of strategy, which I think is what what I that's actually what I love so much about today's podcast is we talk about strategy all the time. And intuition is literally the opposite of strategy.

SPEAKER_00 5:21

Yeah, I mean, I think with a lot of decisions you make, I always look at three areas of my body, and this is weird to say. I think of my head. I always start with my head, maybe that's because I'm a guy or whatever. I just like I go into like solution logical mode. Second is your heart, just like what do you feel? Your kind of feelings towards the thing. The third one is just your gut. Like, what it what are you being drawn to? And that I would say gut is the intuition side of things. Is that fair to say? Just like what are you on the deepest part of your core? What are you feeling about this situation?

SPEAKER_01 5:54

Yeah, and I think you know, when people say go with your gut, go with your feeling, go with your impulse, they're really talking about intuition. Um and I think you know, one of the things that you asked me about before we started recording was, you know, is it useful to talk about the distinction between emotions and intuition? And I think it is an important distinction because intuition is more just a general sense of knowing and a pull, it's a sense of certainty. Emotions are more a reaction. You know, somebody can make you feel good or somebody can make you feel sad or mad or bad, happy or glad. Um, you know, that's all emotion and that's all reaction to something somebody else is doing. Intuition is is from within. It's it's about you, it's about your general sense of feeling about how to proceed in any situation. And so they're related, um, but you know, they're they're quite different as well.

SPEAKER_00 6:41

What I sense the difference personally between feelings, my emotions versus my gut is that emotions tend to be fleeting, whereas your gut instinct actually tends to strengthen over time. So if I'm feeling angry or annoyed, by the next day you wake up the next morning, that's not still there. But if it's a gut instinct that you have, many times if you delay decision, the the stronger that intuition comes along. Sometimes it fades, but it's not as volatile as emotions. Emotions are just like our monkey brain, just like going crazy, just like, oh my God, I feel this way. And and a lot of people, I think, make decisions based on emotions. And we might that might even be synonymous with heart if we were to say that in some ways. Um, but I think really leaning into your intuition, your gut is very, very empowering. And there's just, you know, we humans have been have evolved over the past, I mean we've been around for the past two to three hundred thousand years, but we've evolved over our millions of years to have this incredible tool, which is our intuition. And to disregard that, I think would be a huge miss. So, how do we actually do that, Gary?

SPEAKER_01 7:48

Yeah, and so I I think when it comes to intuition and using your intuition properly, timing is literally everything. And you have to control and fight against your first impulses because our intuition is automatic and we like to make automatic, quick decisions. There, there's evolutionary reasons for that. We want to make quick, rapid decisions. Is that animal that I can't quite figure out what it is, is it a danger to me or not? Like we won't have to figure those things out. The problem is we know also that our first impressions are sticky for lack of a better term. Like they they stick around, they're hard to shake. Um, this is some research that Dan Gilbert calls unbelieving, where it's just very hard once we make our mind up about something to change our mind. And so when you're using intuition quickly and that's your first impulse, and we know it's hard to shake, that's great if you're making great decisions. It's problematic though, in the sense that when you're doing this in a dating context, relying on your intuition when you're first meeting somebody, you're relying on this rapid assessment system when literally you have the least amount of information you're ever going to have.

SPEAKER_00 8:56

Yeah, definitely. And I'm finding that. So we have a new program called Lock since our highest end white love service that we have. And um, for our first 10 clients, I've been doing some sessions with them just to onboard them. And one client was telling me a date she went on, and she was trying to determine if this guy was kind of on her level. She's very successful. Like, I won't get into obviously any of the details there because it's very private, privacy focused. Very, very, very successful, 0.0001%. And she was trying to determine if this guy was successful, which is a fair assessment. She wants to find her equal. But she went on a date and he was just wearing these very, very baggy jeans and not in a cool way, right? Like the really, really bad jeans. And her entire assessment was that this guy was just not there, right? So I encourage her to go on a second date, just give it a chance because there's a lot of good signals there. And it turns out that he is one of the top executives for a again. I can't divulge any information, but let's just say a very, very top company. He's just terrible at style. So it's like overriding, he just has really bad style. Not surprising that guys uh who really focus on their work may not necessarily have the best style. So that just might be an example of our intuition, our initial gut instinct might sometimes lead us astray because we don't have the full picture, we don't have the information. Are you tired of committing your heart to a man who only just pulls away? Well, if so, we have a very special presentation that's available to our podcast listeners. It's at a special link. It's called he commits.com, and it's going to walk you through the five secret strategies that make men commit. Head on over to hecommits.com. It's only available for a short period of time. I think you're gonna like it a lot. All right, back to the podcast.

SPEAKER_01 10:48

Yeah, and when you think about it, when you don't have all the information, what do you rely on? You rely on assumptions, vague feelings, stereotypes. You're just, oh, baggy jeans must be a little like must not who knows? Who knows what she's thinking, but I get it. I that that there's nothing, absolutely nothing about that story that surprises me in any way, right? Because that's how we make assessments. And we have to remember too, when dating, early on, when we don't have a lot of information, the one piece that we have a lot of information about is appearance. And then we over-index or over-optimize on appearance things, and we extrapolate from genes to character to long-term relationship potential, etc. And that is a failed, deeply flawed process. And so what we're gonna try to do today is with the help of some research from Daniel Kahneman, is show you how to use intuition in a way that short circuits some of those really bad initial impulses, still allows you to rely on intuition, but in a way that's actually useful. I love it. I love Danny uh Danny.

SPEAKER_00 11:56

We're best friends, me and Danny.

SPEAKER_01 11:58

Uh I was about to call him Danny too. And I'm like, I don't know if a first name basis. Me and Danny, I've met him actually. He signed it, he signed a copy of Thinking Fast and Slow for me. I met him at a book signing once.

SPEAKER_00 12:08

Love it.

SPEAKER_01 12:09

Maybe I can call him Danny and you can't.

SPEAKER_00 12:11

He's my boy. What do you? I'm gonna text him right now and get him on here. All right. Well, for those who don't know, Danny Kahneman is the top psychologist. Uh, he's Gary, I don't do my yeah, doesn't even need actually much of an introduction. So he is like the godfather of all this stuff.

SPEAKER_01 12:27

So he's he's and and so the whole idea with using your intuition better is to extend and improve the process. Now, some people can use intuition really, really well. Those people are usually experts in whatever domain they're talking about, right? Because they have a wealth of experience and information and knowledge. And so their intuition is drawing on a bunch of sources. They're not really sure about what's going on there, but it's it's subconscious, and that's why they're able to do what they do. It's not that they were born with some special impulse, right? It's like the uh, you know, a friend of my dad is he's he's a great mechanic, right? Really great at cars. He can look at a car and just kind of immediately know if it's worth trying to fix that car. Now, he doesn't exactly know probably how he's making that assessment, but he's basing it on a wealth of information and experience.

SPEAKER_00 13:14

So it's pattern, it's like it's pattern recognition, right? And that's the thing. And for people who haven't dated very for people who have gone out on lots of dates, you might have a much better intuition and gut sense than those who haven't dated in 20 years. And that's a very, very important distinction to make.

SPEAKER_01 13:30

Yeah. And so we can we can strategize with this in terms of dating, in the sense that you can use intuition, you just have to wait and you have to collect more information, gather more knowledge about the person, and then you rely on intuition. So the solution is what I'm calling informed intuition. And so this first step is before you go out on a date with somebody, before you meet somebody, pick your top three to five areas. What are the three to five things that you're gonna focus on? And this is important because when you meet somebody, there's almost a million things that are going on. There's how they look, there's how they act, there's their mannerisms, there's how how they're treating you know, people in the restaurant. There's a thousand things, millions of things to pay attention to. We want you to focus on three to five. Your it doesn't matter what three to five they are, just you pick your your three to five. Ideally, you would base these on your love vision, right? Right, right.

SPEAKER_00 14:23

They're not, you know, focus. So, what we do with our process, we call them the little love steps, is we have a step called little love step number two, where we create this love vision. And contrary to most people coming in, it's not just a long people think that it's gonna be the long list of everything that you want. It's actually not, it's very much so a whittled-down, very focused, must-have non-negotiables. And then actually, it expands our horizon of what we'll consider for guys, because we're actually going to have a very small but focused list. And when you have this, then suddenly when you're going on dating, it focuses you on the things that matter rather than the things that might not matter so much, such as baggy jeans, right? Or you know, you know, there's a number of things, and and it's it's tricky because if someone does one wrong thing on a first date, sometimes we're very, very quick to write that person off. If they, for example, I went on a date one time with a woman who who talked a lot with food in her mouth, and that to me is such a like, oh, I hate, I just like I can't, I yeah, I can't. I didn't even know her, but she's just like she's eating, and it wasn't like horrible, she's not like spitting food everywhere, but she's talking. And back then, if I could be like, Look, man, get focused on the things that matter, because for all we know, she's a wonderful person who just hasn't been taught some very, very basic manners. And uh, you know, I wrote her off like within literally 30 seconds. I'm like, I could never again. Absolutely not.

unknown 15:57

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_00 15:59

I don't know. Dr. Gary would support that. If if Dr. Gary were my love coach back then, maybe he would be like, dude, give her a second chance.

SPEAKER_01 16:05

Give her a second chance. Exactly. Maybe maybe don't go to a restaurant. I don't know. No. Um and so, you know, with your love vision kind of as your guide, you you pick, like I said, three to five things. So, but pick good things, how trustworthy they seem, how kind they seem, you know, are there are they interesting? Do they have good listening skills, some solid character? Again, we're thinking long-term focus. We're not focusing on, you know, their hair, their attire, you know, mannerisms, long-term stuff, nothing superficial. Right. Then you go out.

unknown 16:39

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 16:40

You go out on have your date, you know your three to five things that you're focusing on. You're, you know, you're enjoying yourself, all that kind of stuff. Afterward, you go back. Step two is you rate your priorities. So as soon as possible after your date, while it's all still fresh, you have, you know, write down on a sheet of paper. You know, some of our clients, our clients, this one client of ours who's who's really outspoken, has her black book of notes that she takes after every date, and she raves about it. And it's contagious within all of our clients. Now they all have their own little version of their black books that they're taking notes, which is it's genius, right? It doesn't seem like something you would, it's not something most people would normally think to do, but they all have these little books. They write down, okay, Frank, and they write down, you know, what Frank was about and some key things, and and it's important. You want to do it right after so it's fresh, so you have it, you have it in your mind. And you literally rate these things. And so you would take something like trustworthiness and you rate it on a scale of one to ten. One, not present at all, no evidence of this. And again, you're phrasing this in a sense of behaviors. Not that he say he was trustworthy, it's did he show and and talk about and and kind of demonstrate trustworthiness? Ten would be highly present, right? So it's a simple one to ten scale. And you go through you go through and you rate each one and you put little notes next to each one, right? And so I I came up with a little example one. And so let's assume you're dating Martini Mike, who you know, we've talked about Bud Light Bobby, but Bobby Bud Light. This is Bobby Bud Light's classier friend, Martini Mike. Ooh, I like it. So trustworthiness. You might give somebody a four because he avoided questions about his past and didn't share very much, was kind of elusive with what he was sharing. And so, okay. Trustworthy, only gets he only gets a four. Respectful, only got a three because he was rude to the waitress. Listening, nine. He didn't talk about himself, he asked lots of questions. Interesting, had some cool hobbies and interests. Maybe he was a kite surfer, maybe drove a Harley Davidson. I don't know. Just saying. Love him. Love him, I love him. Marry him. And then kindness, you gave him a six because he volunteers at an animal shelter. So, again, how you rate things is going to be up to you. The note-taking, but I'm demonstrating the examples of the note-taking because it I want to show you the kinds of concrete pieces of evidence that you're using. This isn't reading the tea leaves or trying to extrapolate and trying to like guess about some of these things. These are actual concrete things that he said or did during the date that's evidence of these traits.

SPEAKER_00 19:12

Yeah. I it's very powerful to do this. And I will tell you out of personal experience on something else where this is important is hiring people. So I know a lot of you are executives, uh, work in the business world, or you know, you're hiring in some way, shape, or form. Most people are. And back in the day, like when we were starting Love Strategies, I would go on an interview with someone, I would interview them, be like, I like that person. Oh, yeah. And I'd get all excited, I'd you know, be walking and running and like working out, thinking about that person, how excited I am to have them. And that created chaos because that was just purely emotion. I would only hire people I liked. It didn't actually have any real correlation with the job, so on and so forth. And now, you know, we're we're growing a lot, we're hiring a lot right now. And we use hiring matrix, it's very basic. You sit down, think about what is key for this particular job, what are we looking for? And then right after, you have to mark down on a scale of one to 10 how do they meet that criteria? And then when you actually add up the totals, now you might not do this necessarily for dating, but for us, you add up the totals, you're like, huh, actually, the person that I didn't like as much is actually a much better fit for this. And it's resulted in such a better culture here and such a better team. It's just incredible. So I just think all of this takes the emotion out of it. Trying to dampen the emotion a little bit and lean more into the logical and intuitive side of making a decision is incredibly empowering for long-term success in anything.

SPEAKER_01 20:45

Yeah, I like to hear, you know, that the parallels between jobs and interviews and dating, there's a lot of them, right? And I think that one makes sense. It also makes me think to how you hired me, which is you know, there's a bunch of contestants, we went on some really special dates, and then at the end you gave me a rose.

SPEAKER_00 21:02

I did. What a rose. I got a little smooch too, a little smooch on the cheek. I'm classy. No, I got lucky with you. That was just love at first sight, and then I was like, I'm in. And then it just got it just got just got lucky, let me tell you.

SPEAKER_01 21:17

So that's hilarious. So after you make all these ratings, you you kind of go through each of each of your pieces, then you do step three, which is your overall impression. So you don't have to add up the numbers. This is where you're just kind of like, what's my overall feel? This is where the you know intuition comes in. So like Adam was just saying, with when you're hiring, maybe you add up the numbers and you kind of see what with this, it's you just stand back, look, and just now that you've rated each of those things, what now what's your gut telling you? What is your intuition telling you now? What's your overall feel? Use your intuition again. One 10, one undateable. No go. Next, next, next, next, next. 10 would be partner of my dreams. And so if you want to give them an eight, give them an Give me 0.3, however, you want to do it, that's fine. But this is where you rely on your intuition.

unknown 22:04

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 22:05

Yeah. I I might actually just change this a little bit or give my two cents. But if it's after a first date, it would really just be a the one is definitely not, or any rating above that is like, is he worth the second date? Because you're not gonna really know if he's the person of your dreams after a first date. I mean, you might feel that might be an emotional side of it that you're excited about, but it's more so like, is he worth more of a time investment? That's really the only thing we're deciding after each stage of this. Is he worth my time? Is there something here? Is there potential for growth?

SPEAKER_01 22:38

Yeah, and I think you know, what I would suggest is on this one to ten scale, you're gonna be doing this after each time you go out on a date or see or see somebody. This isn't just a one-shot kind of thing. But you know, on that first date, as long as they're not a one or a two, give them a second date. Then after the second date, maybe they have to they can't be a one, two, three, or a four. And then you go on a third date and you just kind of keep sliding that scale forward. But you're right, it's not you really do have to make sure you avoid that mentality of I only go on second dates with nines or tens. Because again, you don't have all the information. You really don't know because you would cross off baggy jeans guy right away, right? And that's again the exact thing we're trying to sort short circuit. Um, the one other thing you can do to really hone that intuition is which I'm calling step four, get a second opinion. Now, a second opinion could be from a friend, a parent, mom, what do you think about this guy? But that's like super awkward. Particularly, you know, every first date, you don't want to have to check in with mom or even a best friend to get them to weigh in every single time. Instead, what research shows is you can get a second opinion from yourself. You can become your own mentor. And so the idea here is what researchers call psychological distance is you just give yourself a little time and space away from your initial intuition to then go back and reconsider everything. So you'll notice in step two and three, we said do these ratings right after your date. Put your in overall intuition rating down right after. Step four is that second opinion, giving yourself some psychological distance, at least sleep on it. Give it a day or two, and then go back and review all of your notes about Martini Mike and your overall impression, and now see how it feels. Use your intuition a second time with a little bit of time and distance, that's gonna give you a fresh perspective.

SPEAKER_00 24:35

Yeah, yeah. I I definitely agree with that. I think the challenge, especially for women getting advice from mom or friends, is mom and friends are always almost always gonna default to he's not good enough for you. And it also very much so depends on how you phrase the situation, right? You'd be like, well, you know, he wasn't actually that funny, but he actually has these qualities and he's okay. They're gonna be like, honey, you don't sound that excited about him. Move on, you know? And I think it's either use your own judgment based on what it is we're discussing right now, give it time, or having a coach, obviously that's what we do, um, to who actually knows how this process really works to kind of advise you through that situation. Um, because I just see it, I see it all the time with our female clients. There's just this default, and I think this is a relatively new phenomenon, especially in the past decade, where almost all women default to he doesn't deserve you, he's not good enough for you. And I get where that sentiment's coming from. But men, when men are talking to other men about women, that is not necessarily the conversation that I hear. And that might be a topic of a whole podcast. Uh, I know I'm kind of going down a rabbit hole here, but I just find it very, very interesting. So you got to be cautious with asking advice from from your peers.

SPEAKER_01 25:52

Yeah, and I think you know, there there's a time and a place for peers. I don't know if it's that early on, because as little as you know about the person you're dating and seeing, they know even less. And so until your parents, friends, and they are valuable sources of information, but they need to meet the person, they need to have a sense of them. They, you know, you just there needs to be more time in the relationship for their opinion to really matter and be well informed. Well-informed is actually the best way of thinking about it, because at this point, first couple days, you're not terribly well-informed yourself about this person. And so you can't expect a per, you know, someone else removed from it to know. And so, you know, with this psychological distance, like I said, sleep on it. Ideally, you'd give it a couple days. If possible, go for a walk, spend some time in nature, just kind of clear your head of things, and just that way you get a real good second look at it. And then in that second look, you can decide am I gonna go on another date with them? And then there's gonna be certain aspects where you just you're you're not as sure. That's what then goes into your list about the things you're gonna focus on for the next date. So if you focus on trust and kind and good listening, the first one, maybe listening, you're you're pretty sure about that one. So you don't have to focus on that one the next date. You focus on something different, and you you know, you just kind of keep iterating this process, so you start learning more and more, and you use that nice balance of informed intuition because both are really valuable.

SPEAKER_00 27:21

Yeah. And I think that with gut feelings, I think, and just speaking on personal experience, I'd be curious on Danny's opinion. We've got to bring Danny on this podcast, but when it comes to a gut feeling towards the negative, that can typically be a lot stronger than the gut feeling towards the positive. Like sometimes you'll go out with someone or you meet someone, and you're just like, there's something here that doesn't add up. Yeah, and it might be those evolutionary triggers coming in that you can't quite describe, but you even see that the way they look at you, and then they look aside, and they look at you, and they these small tells that they might be lying, but you don't know necessarily to decode that at the moment. But that's just like your our DNA coming in. There's something off here. Um, so I I would just encourage everyone, and I'd be curious on your thoughts on this, Gary, but I would encourage everyone when you get that gut feeling that something's really off, be sure to listen to that and not write it off too much. And if the gut feeling isn't super strong on the positive, that's okay. It just might mean that there's not enough information yet. That's how I would look at it.

SPEAKER_01 28:27

No, I I think that's a really excellent point in that intuition about safety things. You know, I was just talking last night on one of our masterminds with a client about she really likes this guy. He seems amazing, but he gives her the ick.

SPEAKER_00 28:44

Hmm.

SPEAKER_01 28:45

Okay, well, what does that mean? And it it came down to, you know, it's very similar to his, you know, eating food with her with the mouth open. So, but she would she called it it. But it's there's a different version of that where you just don't feel totally at ease around somebody, right? It's like you said, you know, some of the shifting of the eyes and just mannerisms and things that maybe again that's that's that's good intuition. You're not even sure which aspects you're picking up on, but you're definitely picking up on something, which is again, you know, one of the great reasons why we suggest to clients in the program get offline as soon as possible and see somebody face to face because you can pick up on more of those things that someone can disguise over text.

SPEAKER_00 29:27

Yeah, right. That's so true. And you just see if there's misalignment with what who they say they are versus who they are in real life, you can pick up on all these subtle cues that you would just never have a chance to, certainly online, but even with a phone call or a zoom, just being with that person face to face, make it happen, you're gonna get a lot of cues, and that's where intuition comes in strong.

SPEAKER_01 29:49

Yeah, and it it all comes down to the same thing gather more information. Yeah, right. We we already name dropped Danny Kahneman in this podcast. I want to name drop one more famous psychologist, Adam Grant. He has a quote about intuition that I love. I love, I say this all the time. Don't trust your intuition, test your intuition. And that's exactly what we're advocating for here is you can use it, right? We're not being non-romantic this time. We're saying use your intuition. But like we always say, follow your heart, but take some strategy with you. Do and use your intuition in an informed and strategic way, and it's gonna get you where you want to go.

SPEAKER_00 30:26

I love it. I can just picture Adam Grant saying that in his like California accent. I don't know if anyone's ever listened to just trust your intuition. I don't have so bad at accents. I didn't feel like him at all, but yeah. I'm not making fun of him. He just is a very like it's very distracting when he talks because he's like sounds like such a surfer guy, but I really like Adam Adam's work as well.

SPEAKER_01 30:47

Super articulate. And but yeah, you're right. He's got that kind of vibe about how he speaks about things.

unknown 30:53

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 30:55

That was really fun. I hope everyone got a lot out of this. Be sure to trust your intuition as you're getting out there and do it systematically. And we're here for you every single step of the way. Thanks, Gary. That was great. Thanks, Adam. All right, so now we're at the end of the podcast, and hopefully, you got a lot of really great information from this podcast. But as we know, information can only take you so far, it's time to take some action. So, what I recommend you do now is head on over to loveapply.com. It's gonna walk you through a series of questions, and then you'll be able to book what we call a complimentary love strategy session. Yes, you've heard it. Someone on my team is going to get on a phone call with you, be able to understand your situation, what it is that you're struggling with in your love life, and create that strategy to help you attract that man, that relationship you truly deserve. So take that action, go make it happen. We cannot wait to speak with you. loveapply.com and uh yeah, let's help you create that love life you truly deserve. All right, speak soon. Bye bye.